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If Only I Could Be a Kid Again

If Only I Could Be a Kid Again


(10)…but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. (11) When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. (12) For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.” – 1 Corinthians 13: 10-12

“If only I could be a kid again,” is what I say to myself every first of the month when the mortgage is due, Sallie Mae sends a reminder email, and Verizon, BGE and Progressive send me a monthly billing statement.  If only I could go back to childhood, when I didn’t have to pay bills, having “grownup conversations” was easy and all that really mattered was being on honor roll.

The irony about life is as children our bodies automatically grow, but as adults we have to be intentional about our personal growth.  If you are a dream implementer like me, your life is based off of goals, timelines and visions.  Change/growth is uncomfortable and the “unknown” is your greatest fear.  However, if you have dreams, goals, or ambitions, you need to grow to accomplish them.

Unfortunately, most people create self-imposed growth traps that stifle their growth process.  Have you ever really stopped and asked yourself, “What’s holding me back?”  Probably not, but you should make it a priority to do goal self-checks.  Through life experiences and conversations with people, I have found that people:

  • Assume that growth is automatic,
  • Use the excuse that they don’t know how to grow,
  • Psych themselves out, stating “now is not the time,”
  • Are genuinely afraid of making a “mistake,”
  • Feel they have to find “the best way” before they start, or
  • Think it would be easier than what it really is.

I can recall during my process to become a member of Zeta Phi Beta Sorority, Inc., being told that “excuses are the tools of the weak and incompetent and those who choose to specialize in them; seldom succeed in anything else.”  Now for someone who prefers to be an “over-achiever” than to be mediocre being viewed as “weak or incompetent” is the last thing that we want so, not being intentional about being the best at what you do isn’t realistic so, we are constantly researching ways to grow and perfect our craft.

Life has taught me that when you are intentional about your personal growth, the long term benefits will always outweigh the short-term growing pains.  If you focus on being a good employee, you can be a good employee, but being a good employee doesn’t mean you’re growing.  If you focus on learning the business and perfecting the craft you not only can grow into being a great employee, but you can grow into becoming the business owner.

One of my priorities for 2018 was to be intentional about my spiritual growth.  When we become Christians, we enter into a relationship with God; however, I feel like we (or maybe just me) often take for granted His unconditional love for us.  We get into a routine of just attending church on Sunday and maybe bible study on Wednesday, but are you really investing into your relationship with God. 1 Peter 2:2-3 says, “Like newborn babies, crave pure spiritual milk, so that by it you may grow up in your salvation, now that you have tasted that the Lord is good.” Do you devote as much time to your relationship with God as you do learning the likes and dislikes of your new bae?  Do you read your word as much as you read urban fiction (ok, that might really just be a me thing, lol)?  My point is… no matter what type of growth you focus on, whether it’s spiritual, personal, financial, relational etc., you have to be intentional about growing in order to attain your goal.

Change is inevitable, but growth is optional.  Take the time to ask yourself, what do I want to be remembered for? Where do you want to go in life?  What is my passion?  We all have fears and for me an indication of my spiritual growth is when my faith overshadows my fear.  For you it might be realizing when it’s time to remove yourself from a toxic relationship or signing up for graduate school; whatever you “growth area” is go after it, because it’s not automatic and sometimes it actually is greener on the other side. Since you can’t revert to being a kid again, enjoy the opportunity to Glow up and Slay!

Happy Growing!