“32) I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord. 33) But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife— 34) and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. 35) I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.” 1 Corinthians 7:32 -35
Its Gemini season and last week I celebrated my 33rd birthday. A couple of people kept saying it’s your “Jesus year,” so me being me, I just had to look up what that meant. According to the Urban Dictionary, (lol, it’s really a credible source) your “Jesus year” is your 33rd year of life where you are reborn in some sense and start to get in touch with what really matters.
32 was just flat out hard; however, I conquered unemployment, my 2nd Masters degree, a toxic relationship and all other things I had going on in my life. Yet, I still felt like there was something/someone missing, like in spite of all the great things that I was doing, it/I wasn’t enough. As a single woman, who can finally be honest with herself and say, I suffer from the Superwoman complex, I asked myself a lot during 32, “why not me?” Why didn’t I deserve to be married, have a child, etc. My first “ah ha” Jesus year revelation came to me after reading 1 Corinthians 7:32-35 and listening to Queen Bey – Flawless featuring Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie. As young girls we are taught to aspire to marriage, to be successful, but not too powerful, to be confident, but not too outspoken. We are made to believe that singleness is a curse and if we aren’t married with kids by a certain age then there has to be something wrong with you.
According to God’s word, singleness is not a curse. It is a time of personal growth, prosperity, spiritual maturity and preparation. In hindsight, some of the greatest highlights or greatest personal achievements thus far of my life have been while I was single. As I sit here typing this, I had to ask God for forgiveness for the times that I sat around wishing I was in a relationship because, that equates to me prioritizing the love of a man over the love of my heavenly father who can do exceedingly more than what I could ever ask or imagine.
Life is about the “dash.” It’s about the time in between your birth and your death. Single women, “in the meantime,” of your wait…werk, hustle, focus on your passion and walk in your purpose! Love yourself knowing that you are more than enough and stop allowing society to make you feel otherwise. Everyone’s single season varies, but don’t allow the length of your singleness make you believe that you are not worthy of love and happiness.
I’d like to think that my first “Jesus year” ah ha moment isn’t just for me, but for all the ambitious girls who ever wondered, “why not me?” Well ladies, it’s our Winning season and I believe that if we just wait on the Lord and continue to build his kingdom, we will fully understand why he made us wait. What God is doing is beyond what we could ever think or pray. So In the meantime…..Love you some you, because Christ surely loves you and so do I!